Airing the place out a bit

[staranise]

I recently renamed this community--it used to be smh_team, and I've been wanting it to have a tin that says what it does on it for a long time. However, for renames to work, the community can't have any members, so I briefly removed all its members, used a rename token, and then re-added everyone.

I'm glad it's getting more activity! Hopefully soon I can stop running around with my hair on fire and get back to fandom. (Especially since the most recent update, um... made me... ship Nurseydex when it was previously my NOTP? It's complicated.)

Comments

[rarefiednight]

Yes! I think that ultimately, the reason I find Check Please so compelling and why I'm still so invested is that to me it's so much of a story about growth. The characters feel very much like real people in the sense that they are trying their best, but they don't always get it right and often even get it majorly wrong. It feels like a story about communication and people fumbling their way through how genuinely difficult it is, but still trying their best anyways? And learning to listen better and try to meet each other in the middle, to all make a better effort. And realizing that their communication will never be perfect, but it's worth working to be better anyways, and how important it is to be self-aware and try to listen and grow, but also not beat yourself up for not being a mind reader, just to work on the things you can control as you move forwards. And also that sometimes neither person is actually doing something that's wrong, just that so often people's needs and desires conflict with each other, and how to navigate that.
I don't know how much sense any of that made, but I think what I mean when I say that it feels like a story about growth is that one of the most important things the characters learn is that they're always going to be learning and growing, and that's okay - that you don't have to be perfect or change who you are, just do your best and try to listen. That you can accept and love yourself while also knowing that you have flaws and aren't going to always do things right.

[staranise]

*flails* YES THIS EXACTLY

And also about how much you CHANGE during college, how you can leave it a person you barely would have recognized at the beginning. You don't just learn, you grow.

[rarefiednight]

Oh my GOD, for reals. It's such an intense period of change and personal development that... isn't really replicated in many other situations. In the (paraphrased) words of Rainbow Rowell's Fangirl, "Yeah, but freshman months are equal to like, six real months." Or something.

Also, I'm not gonna claim I'm not particularly attached because Bitty would have graduated the same year I did - we're just starting his senior year, but in realtime I've gotten my Master's and a real job and am like, figuring out how to be an adult?? I think sometimes about how he'd be doing now, trying to figure out the stuff I'm trying to figure out, and all the weird stuff that goes with it. How fast the time goes past, but also how slowly? I'm rambling, but - it's comforting, for me, I think. Because, again, growth. It being okay to not know everything, and just take things a day at a time, and do the best I can today, right now, with what I have in front of me.